Jon Katz’s new book explores life after pets die

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Published: 03 Oct. 2011, 19:46

Jon Katz’s new book explores life after pets die

LOS ANGELES - Best-selling author and animal advocate Jon Katz has been writing about dogs for over a decade. Many of his own, past and present, have taken center stage in fiction and nonfiction books such as “The Dogs of Bedlam Farms,” “A Dog Year,” “Izzy and Lenore” and “Rose in a Storm.”

Katz wrote his latest, “Going Home: Finding Peace When Pets Die,” which comes out on Tuesday, to provide guidance, support and advice for people on how to handle the loss of a pet.

Reuters spoke with Katz to discuss his new book and how people can cope with life when the family pet passes away.

Q. What was the biggest surprise for you in researching books about pets and grieving?

A. I found that almost every book had to do with the afterlife. Not a single book said, “This is what is known about things that will help you grieve.” So I started talking to vets and psychologists and gathering information and interviewing maybe 200 different people about what was helpful to them.

And what did you find?

People need to bring rituals into grieving. Memorial services, remembrances, pictures - those are concrete things that make grieving tangible. The Internet offers all kinds of opportunities for this like making digital albums and Facebook pages.

People used to have to hide grief. You couldn’t go to your boss and say, “I need a week off, my cat died.” You probably still can’t, but you do need to say, “I’m having a tough time.”

No doubt your own personal experience went into this.

I’m one of those people who has always struggled with emotions and revealing them. When my dog Orson died, I did this very male thing of “It’s just a dog and I’ll just move on.” I was very slow to grasp the emotion. But Orson is the reason I started writing about dogs. He’s the first [dog] book I wrote and HBO did a movie about him [“A Dog Year”]. Writing this book inspired me to go back and look at the impact of his loss on my life, as well as other dogs that I’ve lost.

You ended up putting Orson down. How does one deal with the guilt of making such a decision?

It’s important to remember that the animals are not grieving with us. They’re very accepting. They’re not lying there thinking “How could you do this to me? Why aren’t you keeping me going?” Pets don’t do the human things of guilt and anger and recrimination that we do. They come and go with great acceptance.

One idea that I advocate is the dealing with guilt directly. Acknowledge the good life, remember the good things you did with your pet - the places you took them, the affection you showed them.

Is grief more difficult if you rescue an animal?

Rescuing implies saving. When you rescue something and then lose it, it can be a huge factor in the intensity of the grief. I have two rescues, Izzy and Frieda. I’m working on a book about Frieda now, “Frieda and Me: Second Chances.” She opened my eyes to that world of dogs that nobody wants who are often the dogs you love most.

Is there any way to prepare for a pet’s death?

If you’re going to love animals and have a life with them, the odds are you’re going to lose them.

‘Going Home: Finding Peace When Pets Die’

Author: Jon Katz
Genre: Nonfiction (Animal Care and Pets)
Publisher: Villard

Reuters