Solo dwellers turn to technology to meet neighbors : Smartphone app brings together those looking for community nearby
“I’ve realized that when you are living alone and you’ve reached an age where many of your friends already have families of their own, it is difficult to meet up with your old friends after work or on the weekend,” said Jeong. “Also, if you have a job that often finishes late, it’s not easy to find a friend who you can meet for a quick beer or two in your neighborhood, let alone making new friends who live close to your place or work.”
After ardent research into how young Koreans meet other people these days, Jeong encountered an application called “Somoim,” which is Korean for “small group,” and he quickly downloaded it to his iPhone.
Somoim is a location-based social networking app which allows users to access small groups that have formed offline, based on a location they enter - typically the area where they live or work - when creating an account. The app prohibits users from changing the selected location for one month in order to gather people who really live or work in the selected locations. When joining, users are asked to select activities that interest them such as “reading,” “drinking,” “leisure,” “travel,” and so on.
Last week, he was unusually free at work, so opened up the app and joined three groups that simply visit good restaurants in the neighborhood. On Saturdays, he meets up with a group that does cultural activities together, such as going to Daehagno to watch a play, and on Sunday afternoons, he meets a group that eats together close to his place.
“I find it really convenient because there are no strings attached,” he said. “When I encounter situations where I have to work late and can’t make it to the appointment I made with my friends, I feel so sorry and get stressed because I have to listen to my friends nag about how busy I am or how I’m always late. Plus, the members at each gathering pay the bills separately, which is another charm.”
Jeong thinks it is also safe for women to join since many small group leaders, at least in the ones he has joined, are very strict about kicking out those who make others uncomfortable.
“When I first [joined] an offline group, the operator asked me to show him my identification card to confirm that I didn’t lie about my status,” said Jeong. “Another group shared name cards.”
The number of single-person households has been growing in Korea over the past few years. According to a recent report from Statistics Korea, single-person households made up 27.2 percent of all households in 2016 and the figure is expected to jump up to 29.1 percent by 2019, becoming the most common type of household in Korea.
Looking at the ages of those living in one-person households, a 2015 figure shows that 36.9 percent are in their 30s. The rise of single-person households has created a trend of individuals preferring to do things alone. Seeing the trend, businesses have started to cater to individuals such as opening up one-person karaoke rooms or offering one-person menus at restaurants.
At the same time, those living solo also seem to be looking for ways to enjoy the company of others, on their own terms. Psychologists and neuroscientists insist that feeling lonely is part of human nature and that human beings are social animals who pursue communal living and want to form relationships with other people. But due to the difficulties they face in modern life, young Koreans are turning to form lighter relationships that are free from any demands or responsibilities.
“What is important is having a balance,” said Kwak Keum-joo, a psychology professor at Seoul National University. “People need time to be alone. They also need time to be with friends and families they are deeply involved with. It doesn’t hurt to form lighter relationships with strangers via social media as long as they are safe. I see the trend of young Koreans looking to enjoy company with others as a positive.”
BY YIM SEUNG-HYE [firstname.lastname@example.org]