‘Love consultant’ pens textbook of dating tipsSong Chang-min, the author of a popular book on love advice called “Tender Passion Textbook,” is better known on the Internet by his cyber-moniker, “KOOL Casanova.” KOOL stands for “Kiss Only One Lady,” meaning he gives his best only to one woman at a time.
The 26-year-old describes himself as a “love consultant,” a job he claims to have pioneered in Korea.
Before you guess what he might be like by the sound of his nickname, he says, “I’ve dated over 400 women in the past six years.
“Did I go steady with all of them? How far did I go with them? Everyone wants to know that first, but my answer is that figure is the number of women that I asked out on a date and the number that probably appreciated my company. There are people here who have not even dated one person sincerely, simply because they didn’t know how. And all the experience I’ve had helped me to offer credible advice to others.”
According to Mr. Song, even though dating is more carefree now, a lot of young people are still timid, even afraid, of the opposite sex.
“I get questions like, ‘I like this girl, what do I do?’ from 30-year-old men,” Mr. Song said. “People who seek my advice aren’t just teenagers.”
He offers this tip for men: When you’re approaching a pretty woman who happens to be with her friend, be sure to be nice to both women because women compare notes.
Mr. Song wasn’t always so confident about relationships. He said he once was a “fat, shy boy” who got dumped a lot. So he dieted, read women’s magazines, watched movies ― and dated plenty. He posted all of his reflections and advice on cafe.daum.net/s3699. Today, that site boasts more than 78,000 subscribers.
As for whether he is seeing someone now, he said, “No comment.”
by Lee Min-a
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